What you focus on becomes your reality.

What you focus on expands.

And most people focus on the wrong thing.

Travelling alone.

Eating alone in a restaurant.

One mind says: “I’m lonely. Something’s wrong with me.”

Another mind says: “I’m comfortable with myself. I don’t need permission.”

Same itinerary.

Same table.

Same food.

Same event.

Different experience.

The difference: the mental and emotional state.

While life can expose to tragic moments, most of the time

"We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more in imagination than in reality" (Seneca)

Hence, most of the time, your suffering isn’t caused by events. It’s caused by the meaning you automatically assign to them.

And that’s the trap.

If you don’t choose your focus, your nervous system will choose it for you.

Based on fear. Conditioning. Old patterns.

That’s not personality. That’s lack of training.

If this blog makes you uncomfortable, good. It means you’ve felt the moment where reaction could become response.

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